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Today I posted at IABC/Toronto about how language is heating up with the 2011 Canadian election scandal. Check it out.
I know how Rip Van Winkle felt when he woke up after 20 years to find the world had changed.

Recently I decided to send out a news release to promote my book Write Like You Talk—Only Better. Sure, I had written news releases in the past couple of decades. But, increasingly, they had become marketing hype posted on companies’ web sites, of little interest to reporters.
Different kinds of front pages
When I researched press release distribution sites, I discovered that they have become more about search engine optimization, splattering your links and keywords across the web. Even though I had been thinking about the more traditional approach of actually meeting reporters’ needs, I saw the value in this.
The trouble was there are so many sites. Most claim to offer “free” services, though few actually do. I asked my LinkedIn groups in my field to recommend specific ones. Nobody did, though some favoured the traditional one-to-one journalist approach.
Seeing as Google has its hooks in everywhere, I decided to pay a small fee to Google News, which should be filling up search engines and news services as we speak. I was astounded that Google will write the news, I mean press, release for you for just $20. I know I can do a better job than someone who could make more flipping burgers.
Free stuff
Then I randomly picked a few of the free services, nothing to lose: Briefing Wire, Press King and Newswire Today. I also tried a new service from Ezinearticles.com that I happened to discover when I was posting an article there.
One of the clues that these sites were more for search engines than journalists came from their insistence that titles be capitalized, contrary to the requirements of Canadian Press and many similar news agencies. The Ezinearticle service had a word-length requirement, even though I know from experience that short how-to releases are often welcomed by editors who have awkward spaces to fill. And let’s not forget how tiny those snippets are on the home pages of news sites.
No journalists have called, though I did pick up some incoming links. These sites serve a purpose, but it’s not reaching reporters.
Back to traditional media basics
I’m lucky to have started my career in government, with veteran journalist mentors, teaching me how to attract coverage on the front page of major dailies and television networks. It made my parents so proud to open their morning newspaper and see me quoted as “ministry spokesperson.”
I was flattered when busy reporters would add their byline to part or most of my media release or kit. I laughed when a major daily put my photo on the front page of their business section, instead of the dark-suited bankers I was trying to hype, simply because I was wearing a red suit and they were shooting in colour.
I didn’t pursue media relations because I didn’t enjoy following up with reporters, as the private sector demands. I also lacked the chess-like skills of my colleagues who knew how to leak strategically or brief off the record. I bristled at suggestions I “spin” the news, knowing full well that media relations is about honestly telling your client’s side of the story, not distorting it.
Changed, yet the same
Although the web has changed media relations dramatically, many of the same skills still apply. As the French more elegantly say: “Plus ça change, plus c’est la même chose.”
My press release to the online news services was just a warm up. The best results will come from identifying the reporters who might be interested in my book and tailoring a news release that meets their individual needs.
The question is: can I still fit into that red suit?
Thanks for the photo, Roy Prasad.
As much as I enjoyed Elizabeth Gilbert’s best-seller Eat, Pray, Love, I could not relate to her love-trumps-all modus operandi. You see, I’m in my fifties, divorced and way past expecting a man to “complete” me.
As a sandwicher, with kids still at home and needy aging parents, the last thing I need is someone else to take care of. If someone were to show interest, he would have to present a good health seal of approval and chef’s papers or other proof of domestic self-sufficiency. Since no one is asking, as fewer do after 40, this is academic.
It’s not that I’ve given up on love. But ever since the estrogen well began to dry up, I’ve realized that true love is the compassion I try to feel for everyone around me.
Unfortunately, I can stay on this Buddha path only when I’m not dashing off to the washroom. The constant yearning for romantic love has been replaced by the incessant urge to pee.
As long as a woman can reproduce, she is driven by this love-conquers-all belief, shared by Elizabeth as well as the very funny thirty-something women in the movie I saw last weekend Bridesmaids.
I had to go so bad. Even worse than after morning coffees or gym water. But I could not risk missng a funny bit. From the long line for the loo after, I knew I was not alone.
Perhaps the laughter trigger is behind Whoopi Goldberg’s new commercial for Poise. Although I plan to adopt her word ” spritzing,” I cannot relate to her Cleopatra, Statue of Liberty and other impressions.
Neither am I drawn in by the Tena commercials about the fashion model peeling off period costumes like a Russian doll. They should have stuck with the older commercial, where the woman my age at her front door digs frantically for the keys while a fantasizing a washroom drop onto her lawn. Now that’s funny.
That could be me, as could the food-poisoned movie bride-to-be Lillian crouched in the middle of a busy street. You can’t see, but you know she is pooping under the designer gown.
That’s what women want. A story we can relate to. Reaction without yucky details. A good laugh.
Are you listening, companies that are advertising to women?
Not that I’m ready for this kind of protection–yet. Though I could probably unleash more of that compassion I now call true love if my moments of enlightened bliss were not shattered by my subconscious scrambling for the code for my yoga building’s washroom lock.
While U.S. Thanksgiving may be the kick-off to the Christmas shopping frenzy, I think it should also launch the snail mail holiday card season.
Because of email and social media, you’re likely receiving fewer paper cards, so you appreciate what you receive all the more. Like me, you probably display them as part of your holiday décor. When you look at a particular card, you think about the person who took the time to send it to you.
I don’t pay as much attention to the people who email me a Christmas card, even less if it’s a Merry Christmas update on Facebook or Twitter. The less effort people expend on holiday cheer to me personally, the less time I spend thinking of them.
I’m no Scrooge. That’s just human nature, which you need to consider before you decide how to send your holiday greetings.
Make it personal
A few years ago, motivational speaker Dave Howlett prompted me to go back to mailing cards. He insisted that everyone should send thank you cards every week. Inspired, I bought cards and sent them out for a while.
Life got busy and my enthusiasm flagged. Now I’m down to sending Christmas cards to the folks I should have been thanking throughout the year.
Even better is a card with a personal note, thanking individuals for something they did for you during the year. The note has to be individual, such as thanks for cheering me up when my father got sick or taking the time to help with research for an article.
Your thank you list
At a time of the year devoted to being grateful, you should have an easy time coming up with a list of the people you want to thank. Here in Canada, where Thanksgiving is but a burpy memory, I’m planning to buy mine today, before the best ones are sold out.
Of course the cards must be printed on recycled stock. It’s even better if the proceeds go to help a charity you like. And don’t forget the secular cards for people who won’t appreciate anything about Christmas.
Like me, many of you will be using the holiday season as an excuse to stay in touch with many people you can’t think of a special reason to thank. You’re just glad you met them. That’s where email cards and other mass communication come in handy.
Group communication
I’m an expert at these. Over the years, I have written many Christmas messages from executives to their employees, customers and other important people. So let me share what I’ve learned.
As with individual cards, these messages have to be personal. Because you can’t talk about other individuals, you have to write about your own experiences and emotions, especially those that you expect the people on your list will relate to.
For example, your dog’s fascination with the first flakes of snow, tracking down that sold-out you’re your daughter is expecting from Santa or sinking your teeth into that luscious shortbread.
My point is: be grateful, personal, emotional, visual, sensual and authentic. People will not feel any closer if they think your assistant simply merged a mailing list and mass holiday greetings template.
I sent an earlier draft of this post as a guest submission to Copyblogger. Sonia Simone declined, explaining that most of their readers don’t have snail mail contact lists. What a shame. While new media gives us more choices, it should not displace the old, especially in cases when it works better. Don’t forget that most of us still listen to radio. Besides, it’s so easy to find snail mail addresses online.
Get cracking
Many of you are probably why I’m writing about Christmas cards when it’s still more than a month away. It’s because every year I wish I had started my cards earlier. After all, people are more likely to notice the cards that arrive before the Christmas rush. And I’ll be pleased to have more time in December for all the shopping, decorating, partying and visiting that make the holiday season so special.
It’s too early to know what I’ll write on my blog. I know it will be more personal than my usual advice about writing and communication and my efforts to hype my ebook Write like you talk—only better.
When my kids were young, there was no end to the heart-warming and humorous tales. As teenagers, they’re embarrased if I write much about them, amazing though they are.
My aging parents are more likely to stir the gooey emotions that bubble at Christmas. For 10 years, I’ve tried to make the holiday special, knowing it could be my mother’s last one.
At our Thanksgiving dinner, for the first time, she was unable to lift the wine glass to her mouth. I did it for her–many times. On the front porch after dinner, as she struggled to hold onto her cigarette, I teased her about being tipsy. She laughed.
She doesn’t laugh much any more, so those moments are precious. Almost like those increasingly rare Christmas cards. They will be treasured.













My teens will look back at Facebook as their defining social media. For me and other baby boomers, it’s the telephone. 
Sure, there are lots more questions you can ask. But if you can figure out the answers to these two, you can get inside the head of this person and like-minded people.